Detectives and paying for doxing isn't that expensive. You're gonna want to make sure you got money though. You're shitposting on r9k so it's guaranteed you're fucked social somehow if not also in your looks and so you'll need more money to offset that when women look your way.
Hit up a uni and get a good degree not some shitty IT degree that will get you placed into every resume pool full of thousands just like you but a real degree. Then get a job and start making money and getting promoted for more money and status. Sitting around moping about it won't make it happen.